After a couple says “I do” in a perfect word, they live happily ever after. Unfortunately, this is not a perfect world we live in. And a lot of times, after the wedding day, that is when trouble happens.

Whatever the cause, the couple’s happy and blissful relationship all of a sudden turns cold and bitter.

In this article, I am going to draw on my experience as a family counselor San Diego to help a couple decide, when is it time for a couple to seek marriage counseling.

Arguments, disagreements, and fights do happen.  It is bound to happen in most marriages.But there is a time when the couple needs to look at whether or not this is normal or part of everyday life.  Or if is too much and time to seek help.

Because a problem in a marriage, left unchecked, could one day lead to a horrible divorce.

So for couples seeking to keep their marriage, here are some key signs to look for and decide if marriage counseling San Diego is needed.

The first sign is bickering, do you guys bicker a lot?  Do little things cause you guys to argue? Allthough seemingly no big deal, this could be the beginning of trouble starting.

Second, do you find you don’t have anything nice to say about each other? This is a sign that you guys are holding contempt towards each other and this is not good.

A third thing is do you find that your level of respect for each other is not there?In all relationships, there must be a level of respect.

Fourth sign, do you see that intimacy is lost between the two of you?  This is not just for sex, although this is part of it.Does is seem like the two of you aren’t as close as you once were?

Fifth, do you find you are happier when you and your spouse are apart?This is not good and a sign of the start of seperation.

Sixth thing to examine is there a loss of trust between the two of you? One of the most important things for a married couple is trust.When your most intimate moments are going to be lived and shared with, there has to be trust.

Finally, has there been unfaithfulness between one of you?To most it seems simple enough and obvious.  But sometimes when this happens, couples could just try to ignore it rather than deal with it.

Of course there a lot of other signs to look for.  But these are some big ones when deciding if it is time to seek a marriage counselor in San Diego. 

If these are some of the things you are experiencing, and to find a way to save your marriage is your goal.  You need to seek professional help to try and work out these problems.

A lot of times, a third viewpoint is very helpful for the situation, and this is why a family counselor can help.